You may recognize this photo of podcaster Leslie Harris’s garden in Charlottesville, VA from my visit in early April.
Well, it wasn’t long after that that Leslie announced that she and husband Jeff were MOVING. And not just selling the masterpiece she’d created over nine years, but downsizing BIG-TIME, from this almost-acre lot to a mere townhouse-size garden. The purpose, she told listeners, was to make it easier to travel, especially to Connecticut where all their grandkids now live. I bet some of you recognize the strong gravitational pull of grandchildren.
Leslie’s listeners and Instagram followers have followed updates on the move, including generously getting this garden in perfect condition to turn over to the buyers, who are gardeners and will love it, maybe as much as she does. Plus, the (contractually allowed) cuttings she potted up for planting in the next garden and mere weeks before going to closing, having no choice but to go to Scandinavia, a trip planned and paid for long before the decision to move.
But it all somehow got done, as Leslie announced in an episode entitled “We did it! We moved!” Moving is, in her words, “a full contact sport,” but add to the normal stresses a very painful sting by a “hornet as big as a Clementine that had me lose the use of one hand for two days and the full use of both hands up until… we’re still waiting!” Yikes! Oh, and on top of which, it all happened during a brutal heat wave. And on moving day her husband was absent, having been called away to tend to his ailing mother.
All of which she sums up thusly: “So it wasn’t the smoothest thing ever, but everything’s coming along.”
I was fascinated and horrified by all that but what prompted this post was the recording she made the night before the big move, “on my second Bud Lite, overlooking my garden” when she “felt a certain catch in my throat.”
And yes, in my last go-around of the garden, going all around, I got to a place where it was just a little overwhelming and I had a big old cry, at the same time I was pruning a Salix. I was sobbing as I was cutting that lollipop down for the last time.
But gardens are happy places, so let us move on…I have loved this place but it does not define me. I am a gardener who can garden at other places. Yeah.
Those sobs must have been SO cathartic! Then like the resilient gardener she is, she revealed some plans for her new garden. “Mr. Nandina, you are SO out of here!”
Leslie posted this shot of her “bowling alley garden to be” on Instagram.
Leslie’s story brought back memories of my own move from a garden I’d created over 26 years (!) to a townhouse garden in late 2011. (And covered in posts like “Who fill buy my lawnless garden?” and “Downsizing and Downscaling in House and Garden.”)
My old garden, on a third of an acre, overlooked a lovely wooded valley, seen here as it looked to potential buyers that fall. My gardenblogging friend Layanee DeMerchant happened to visit after the house had been sold (to gardeners!) and she snapped this photo of me sadly surveying the view I’d soon be leaving.
Moving day was in late December, when the trees were bare and my garden looked its worst. That didn’t stop one of the movers from surveying the view and asking me “How can you leave this?”
Yeah, that didn’t help.
But what came next was liberation from caring for a large, old garden and the thrill of creating something new with a clean slate. And the smaller the garden, the cheaper and easier it is to go whole hog! Which I did.
I clearly remember that lovely visit! I had forgotten that picture although I may just have it filed away somewhere. You have made a new and wonderful garden which is yet unseen except in your post. I hope to see that one someday. I will see you soon at Fling.
Your photo of Susan is wonderful – beautiful and evocative.
Thanks for a great article. Brought tears to my eyes. Change is good but also hard. We get so attached to our beloved gardens. All the blood, sweat, tears and therapy that a garden provides. We are so lucky to be able to garden. Cheers.
I can no longer work in my gardens (seven ac.,mostly wooded with natives planted over the last 20+years) but I hope whoever buys the property will not demolish the lush naturalness.So many ferns and Trilliums, bloodroots.! I am torn as to whether I should invite my friends out to dig what they want or just leave it up to the realtor.I am ill, and husband has dementia, but neither one of us wants to move before we die. We enjoy looking out our many windows and seeing the plants and the birds and critters. I don’t like seeing all the stilt grass that i would have removed had I been able.
I am so sorry, Lynda. It is sad that we do not have the energy or ability to care for our gardens as the years pass. I would invite friends to dig out some treasures. (You cannot be sure future buyers will be gardeners and appreciate what you have created.) It always warms my heart to look at plants in my garden that others have passed along to me, and if you pass along some plants, you can be sure your friends will think of you when they tend to those gifts. I hope you and your husband find a small place where you can still see plants and birds and critters — even if on a smaller scale.
I like the image I once chanced upon, of a Persian rug–intricate, vibrant and reflective of its creator— now needing to be rolled up, and placed in a ” memory” room, freeing said creator to start another.
I love that!
This article makes me anxious. I am torn: my CT town is beginning to feel more like a city, with so many condos/building projects going on. I fear it will have a very different feel in just a few years. I long for a more rural area, but I cannot bear the thought of leaving my gardens that I have worked on for 29 years. Finding someone who loves gardening (as Leslie did) is ideal, but not guaranteed.
I’m so sorry this makes you feel anxious and I don’t blame you. In my mind, I never counted on anyone being interested in my garden, and in fact, my husband, the agent and I talked openly about the fact that there could be a real problem in finding a buyer because of it. We seriously considered simplifying it ourselves as a way of ‘staging’ the property (replacing the mixed borders with flowering shrubs is the easiest way to do that).
Having left two gardens that I put my heart and soul into, it’s just so clear to me that gardens are ephemeral, but the happiness that I felt there and the scenes that I created are still mine, in feelings and photos.
Some dust floating around in the room got in my eyes.
Yes to all these comments, and I second Susan’s advice to share your plants with friends. I think generally gardeners are very generous people, and it’s lovely to know your favorites will continue to have a home somewhere no matter who gardens in your space next.
Yes, leaving a garden that you have put all your heart and soul into is hard to do, but the next chapter can be exciting and refreshing. I am about to do this myself for the third time and plan this time to make a photo book of all the photos that i have taken and plan to dig up what I need for a smaller garden and invite friends to go shopping in my garden. Each garden we make we become smarter and more clever with how we garden and our new gardens will be much less work, will have stronger and more beautiful plants and we will actually have time to invite our friends over for a glass of wine!