Sparked by Elizabeth’s zinnia post this week on the merits of plants she once considered to be the “low rent versions of dahlia,” I spent some time this morning considering the many plants I have dismissed out of hand only to be surprised by joy years later.
I cannot virtuously say that each and every prejudice has been bested; but there have been so many humblings, that it is not quite as easy these days to wrinkle my nose and label something deplorable unless I have had numerous unfortunate experiences with it. One must move beyond the first or even second impression, or risk eating one’s words without salt.

I have always adored zinnia. It’s dahlia I had to learn to love.
The Hive Mind
Sometimes we are simply told what to like and what not to like, and in the early years of gardening, this is fine and tolerable and perhaps helps us avoid the plants that would disproportionately consume our energy – however bottomless it may be.
But the human condition being what it is, and courage being the rarest of the virtues, expressed opinions are very seldom original, and often build upon those held by the most strident. Thus we are inexorably and comfortably drawn into the rarefied circles that proclaim one plant common and vulgar, another, exquisite and life changing.
Not convinced that the Emperor is clothed? When we break from the hive mind and begin to study individual plants on their merits – and perhaps more importantly – within the context of our own gardens, opinions we have parroted for so long may become insupportable.
For me: Forsythia x intermedia. Proclaimed a shrub for “non-gardeners” by gardeners of my earliest acquaintance, the butchered hedges and incongruous lawn-balls of suburbia only confirmed the bias. Yet allowed to grow with wild and graceful habit under the auspices of a watchful gardener with pruners in hand – a glorious herald of spring.

Forsythia at Hillwood Estate, Museum & Gardens, Washington D.C.
The Right Place
Sometimes our first impression of a plant is through growing it, and growing it badly. Make no mistake, there is a plant for every place, yet gardeners spend an inordinate amount of time forcing round plants into very square holes, aided and abetted by clever marketing departments who hand them the hammer.
If we are observant, and fortunate, and happen to see a plant growing in its ideal or native conditions, we are transformed and then transfixed by love of something for which we previously felt contempt. What an extraordinary feeling this is – shared by thousands who tour gardens and wild spaces all over the world and experience eureka moments on their knees in a moist meadow – or on a dry outcropping ten thousand feet above sea level.
For me: Camassia leichtlinii – Mine never came to much on dry, partially shaded soils; and seeing the occasional three or four blooms in friends’ gardens did not sway me. But witnessing them en masse in moist sunny meadows in the UK at the height of spring made me understand what they, and what I, were missing.

I’m not the only one smitten.
Changing Perspectives
Sometimes our senses are deadened to a plant by its overuse or misuse. These are those once new, once special plants given the unfortunate gift of extreme adaptability. They are the “landscaping solutions” – the “workhorses” that adorn countless suburban and urban landscapes without objection or applause. To see a workhorse brushed and trimmed and running in a show ring changes one’s mind as to its full potential, and sets the brain racing as to the unusual ways it might be used in one’s own landscape. Context often breeds contempt.
For me: Agapanthus praecox. I blame too much time spent as a jogger on the streets of Pasadena where this and strelitzia are as ubiquitous as white teeth and yoga pants. I have only begun to come round to the idea of planting it thanks in part to cultivars such as Southern Living Plants’ Ever Twilight™

That’s Nice for You but Not for Me
Sometimes we recognize that a plant works well in the context of someone else’s heavily stylized garden or design, but feel that it cannot possibly work in our own. It becomes stereotyped in our heads – forever part of a garden that we might profess to love (within the earshot of the resident gardener), but could never live with (later in the car driving home).
Thus an incredible plant that might create a spectacular accent in a dull corner is overlooked – right up until the moment one is uncomfortably offered a division and can find no where else to hide it other than a dull corner.
More eureka moments follow – and the inevitable proselytization of others by a zealous convert.
For me: Weeping trees of any genera. For years I saw them as overpriced, bizarre accents for pretentious high-end landscapes. Then I was given a tiny Juniperus rigida and enjoyed the soft pendulous texture it brought to a pot display. Now I grow everything from weeping deodar cedars to weeping beeches.

A newly planted white weeping redbud in front of the usual bloomers. Wish I’d planted it years ago.
Fear of Failure
Sometimes we are uncomfortable with the unknown. It is easier perhaps to dismiss a plant, or a species, or a genera, based on what we have heard or not heard. What skills will be asked of us? What will be gained? How uncomfortable will be the journey?
There are millions of comfortable gardens across the world. They bring their owners joy and provide green spaces in an increasingly urbanized world. But for those whose pulse quickens at a challenge, comfortable is rarely enough.
For me: Tropical and subtropical plants. Yes, I know. I ended up not only growing and loving them, but writing a book about them. How’s that for eating one’s words without salt? Or pepper.

That’s a lot to crow about, and a lot of crow to eat.
One Man’s Trash…
And sometimes we are just hard-headed. I still have plants I do not like and do not care to like, even were I to be shamed by my horticultural heroes.
What is more, I confess to delight in hearing the secret and personal loathings of fellow gardeners. In watching the dismissive look of a designer, or the mumbled malice leveled at perfectly reasonable plants – plants that cannot otherwise be diminished by the moralistic labeling we effortlessly and liberally deploy these days.
I am interested by these observations and prejudices and do not necessarily seek to change them, though I may drill down a little in conversation to find out why, exactly, that begonia sends you into fits of madness.
Never for me: Dianthus. Squatty, ragged, bouquet fodder. Interestingly it is one of the first flowers I remember from my childhood – simply because I didn’t care for it. Perhaps I was still smarting from a spanking when I first glimpsed them – we’ll never know.
And it is no good telling me that your beloved grandmother grew them. Everyone’s beloved grandmother grew them. I mean to raise my grandchildren with better standards.
Whew. That felt really good.
Got some prejudices you’ve overcome…or chosen to ignore? I think we’d all love to hear them…. – MW
You are so right! There are a lot of things I feel I should have done a certain way but if I would have thought of knowing everything and then start gardening then it would never have began. There is so much to learn in gardening. Recently I have bought a glass greenhouse for sale and now busy learning about it.
I failed with dahlias after several attempts, and afterwards turned contemptuously aside anytime I came across them in the nursery. But last year I had a large bare spot in the garden, and reluctantly decided to try a dahlia, it would fill the spot nicely – IF I could get it to live. Lo and behold, the magic of “right plant right spot” kicked in, and it filled that spot gloriously. Now, I think they’re Lovely!
Debra I found that single dahlias tick all the boxes for me. They are happy, colorful, prolific, full, rarely need staking, and do not die a “for-godssake-deadhead-me!” death that even zinnia partake in. I grow others, but I love my singles best. – MW
Haha. I remember when these kind of posts used to be “plants I hate.” Glad to have sparked a kindler, gentler version!
Glad to be thought of as ‘kindler and gentler” LOL. – MW
I loved this rant so much! But, I still don’t think I will ever embrace a mimosa tree or let wild violets run rampant in my yard, no matter how much they are lauded by “newbie” gardeners!
Geraniums, ugh. And vastly over-used in container gardens and small yards here in Denver. Thanks for an entertaining and thoughtful read.
I’m not much of a fan of wild violets. Sure, they’re pretty. but, Dag! They are the most promiscuous plant ever! My little patch of lawn is better without their annual invasion IMHO. My wife, aka Da Missus, loves them, however.
We have compromised by having wild violets.
I think I suffer more from a lack of prejudice. I admire a plant in a garden or even a catalogue. I indulge that impulse and then I can’t successfully grow it in my garden.
Clivia is one of my most disappointing failures. I thought I understood what it needed and I thought I had the perfect location. Alas, after 5 years, it’s time to admit it’s a failure, plagued by yellowed leaves and die-back. I should replace it, but my abhorrence of killing plants prevents me from doing that. Much like my dogs, plants don’t leave my garden until they are dead, regardless of how they behave while they are succumbing to my inferior gardening methods.
Advice about clivia would be welcome.
For years I’ve dismissed petunias out of hand, because surely there are more interesting plants. But one day early last summer (2020) I walked out my front door to a flat of petunias on my porch. I still don’t know who left them there, but I planted them in the long-neglected front garden I had cleared of weeds. They bloomed all summer long, with really minimal attention from me which was great because my attention was mostly taken over by my new baby. So I bought some myself this summer. Do I still think there are more interesting plants? Yes. But I get the appeal of petunias now too.
Love wild violets. Great free fillers in my shade garden when I had very little money for plants. I would transplant them from lawn to bed. I over heard some co-workers talking about a women they saw doing it and wasn’t she a nut? And they were not talking about me. I was glad to hear I was not alone.
Heather I had the same experience with petunia (except I wasn’t given a full flat of them – just a couple trial plants of a Wave petunia) Had no where else to stash them but in the ground, and wow. Kept looking at them out of the corner of my eye each day and thinking…hmmmm….impressive. Absolutely hated the color, but the vigor was outstanding and they’ve got many others in that series…. Hurray for people putting a flat of flowers on your front step – what a wonderful thing. – MW
Every so often I have the need to get my petunia mojo on. The last few years, I have basically just fed the local ants and deer with them. But one year I had a prolific light pink bloomer, which I brought inside to my north-facing kitchen windowsill at the end of the season, and that plant grew and bloomed all winter long, vining up around the window and cabinets until it was about 12 feet long. I always hope I’ll get another one like it.
My “plant I just can’t manage to get behind” is hosta. It’s strange, b/c I can admire it in other people’s gardens and in public places. It is so lovely combined with fern and astilbe. I’ve bought two over the years, and they sat in the pot ’til I gave them away. I keep waiting for the “hosta bug” to bite me, but so far, it hasn’t. I feel the same way about growing veggies. I always have a tomato plant or two, but just can’t be bothered with it when I have two farmers’ markets within minutes of me.
Two farmers’ markets within minutes! I’ll need a minute to squash my envy. No pun intended. – MW
I find the rose “Iceberg” ubiquitous and dull; however, I live with someone who admires its qualities in a landscape, so it flourishes in our yard. And every yard in sight and beyond.
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For years I struggled to grow amaryllis belladonna (aka naked ladies) that would bloom. I moved halfway around the world and failed again. Then I returned to Sonoma county in California and now I fall about laughing when I see hundreds of them along fence lines, in the ditches, in abandoned lots… They are gopher proof and deer proof and multiply prolifically. Would I have them in my garden? No way!
I’m with you when it comes to the very similar Lycoris squamigera – cannot abide them coming up out of nowhere on lawns this time of year – but amongst shrubs here and there (I inherited a lot of them) I think they are wonderful! – MW
Cactus. Ick. Ugh. Never.
But privet, looked upon as a boring ubiquitous why-bother, oh thank goodness, something that makes a hedge and that the deer won’t eat. I’ve tried and tried to get wild violets to grow, am thankful for the one agapanthus that the deer didn’t eat, and am very thankful for those naked ladies in August when everything in the yard looks pathetic.
Basically, I like anything that the deer won’t eat and that the heat won’t fry. Pickiness is out the window for this Central California foothills gardener wannbe.
Having just visited my mother in the Sierra foothills, I completely understand. Interesting that the mule deer don’t eat privet as our white deer here in the Mid-Atlantic mowed down two of my new ‘Sunshine’ privet. I’ve got one large specimen safely behind a fence. Highly recommend that shrub. -MW
The Fear Factor section is on target for me-I tend to dismiss using plants like Agave and Sotol in gardens, not because they can be prickly and not because they aren’t beautiful, but because they are very expensive and I worry that they will rot away and die in our north Texas clay. I see them all over town thriving, and they can be absolutely breathtaking, but I like them better in gardens where I can’t be held responsible for their demise. As for trash plants that I despise, but still have in my garden: Liriope. I absolutely hate Liriope. I planted it in a bed at a vacation home that was continuously overrun with weeds. Although it was very effective at crowding out weeds, and certainly passersby appreciate the kempt look, when I see it, I wince.
Not a fan of boxwood, as it smells like pee to me. I also can’t get on board with sedums, although people in my garden club seem to love them. Right now I am loving my portulaca grandiflora or moss roses. They are cheerful little blooms in many colors and don’t require a lot of work.
Cotoneaster horizontalis is well despised in the UK – but wait until it is absolutely covered with happy bees !
That’s one I changed my mind on too. It can be quite impressive draping over a wall, but I think the artful use of secateurs is required! – MW
Ornamental grasses and dracaena are not my thing – I am not a fan of otherwise lovely mixed planters having a random spike of something that, for me, ruins the effect. I am also not a fan of constantly watering hanging baskets, so other plants have been ruled out over the years and now mine are filled with portulaca / moss rose: simple, colorful little blooms that thrive without intervention.
The ongoing battle to eradicate extremely tenacious orange ditch lily from THREE large areas around my house had potentially ruined all lilies for me but I am trying a few next year. Gladiolus still hasn’t overcome the funeral home association in my mind, and it’s super windy here so I can’t be bothered to stake more plants… but I am open to being won over by pretty much any plant! Never say never!
I suffer from this soooo much! I would never of considered forsythia except that when I found myself at home 24/7 during COVID it was the highlight of my day, forced in a vase in the bleak gray of February! Now, I’m rooting cuttings, thinking of them as “investment” plants. I totally agree on the above about the neighborhood prune that is too common and so ugly
I hated petunias until I had a friend who had a special way with them. Hers are beautiful, bright and spreading all over the place. Now I plant one by my patio every summer. Reminds me of her, and fills the spot perfectly. I kind of like the smell. Kind of like I enjoy the smell of new tires in the tire shop. Marigolds are kind of the same for me. But I plant them among my veggies. They attract pollinators. When i deadhead the flowers I feed them to my chickens and I believe it makes their eggs a lucious gold. And, I have a whole vase of them on my patio right now. But, every year I think about not planting them.
I hate to see the grocery store prim rose planted out in the garden. They are fine brightening my dining table in the early spring but I hate them in the garden. Except, that I have a few. Maybe more than a few. I can’t walk by them at that time of year, they are the first plants available in the spring. And I can’t throw them out when they are done blooming.
I love hostas. Except for the variegated. And I don’t like the blooms on any of them. But I have many. I eventually get around to taking the bloom stalks down and it is always a big relief to my eye.
I really need to work on tolerance. Or opinions, quit having them?
Never quit having opinions. We share quite a few! – MW
It’s nice, isn’t it?, that the garden is one place we can allow ourselves sheer prejudice, and dislike things just because. You’ll never see kniphofia on my little property. But biases can change. For years I didn’t grow phlox, turned off in my youth by mildew and the garden-of-eden colors of self-sown plants in old gardens. Now I happily make space for King David (I know there are even better whites these days) and get six weeks of brilliant flower.